Two years ago, I was congratulating a young
Muslimah on her engagement. She had grown
up in my community and I had known her since
before she could talk. I had seen her blossom
from a waddling toddler into a confident and
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intelligent young woman. She began looking for
a husband in her last year of college, wanting to
get married before starting medical school. After
multiple dead-ends, she had finally found a man
who met all her criteria for marriage. Everything
about this guy was perfect. He was religious,
good looking, volunteered at the masjid, had a
stable job, was known for his kindness to
youngsters at the masjid, and was loved by the
elders like he was their own nephew. It was a
perfect match. She was thrilled about starting
married life and you could see the happiness
emanating from her as everyone gave her their
best wishes.
A few months later, I ran into her at a dinner
party and asked how marriage life was suiting
her. She simply said it was “Fine”, but I could
tell something was wrong.
After some cajoling, she shamefully admitted the
truth. Her sex life was horrible. In fact, it was
fast becoming non-existent. She had been a
model Muslimah her entire life. Before marriage,
she had never so much as held a non-mahram’s
hand, let alone become physically intimate with
one. She had eagerly looked forward to marriage
as a chance to finally indulge in all the physical
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intimacy she had postponed for the sake of
Allah